To Invite, or Not to Invite......THE GUYS! Should you invite your husband and his friends
onto the sacred ground of the baby shower? That is the question that plagues
many hostesses and moms-to-be.
Wanting to include your hubby in the festivities is only a natural progression of your
pregnancy. Shopping for maternity pants, helping you register for baby
clothes, attending Lamaze classes at 8:00 pm each Wednesday night, driving you
to doctor's appointments, and a handful of other dad-to-be duties has kept him
busy up to this point. So, why ask him to sit around with pink and blue
balloons taped to the wall, subject him to conversations that include the
words "breast pump" and "hemorrhoid cream", and eat crumb
cake with his Aunt Betty? Involvement.
From the time you told him you were pregnant up to the birth, most of us are trying to find
a way for hubby to become involved with the baby. You have an instant bond
with your baby. He/she lives inside of you; is nourished by you; is protected
by you. From the tiniest flutters of movement in your fifth month to the
whopping kicks in your ninth month, you are well aware of your baby's
presence. Your husband doesn't have the luxury (not that pregnancy is luxurious)
of having the closeness that you and baby share. Although, ultrasounds and
heartbeat recorders have helped the dad-to-be experience his unborn child in
the last few decades.
You are now asking, what does this have to do with co-ed baby showers? It doesn't, I just
wanted you to feel bad for him. The only reason you would invite your hubby to
the party is this: It took two to create, so two should celebrate! Seriously,
though, please review this guideline before you plan a co-ed baby shower:
- Invitations should reflect a co-ed baby shower (couples names on envelope)
- Invite more than one or two men.
- Plan the day on a non-sports day (don't plan it on the Super Bowl).
- Create games that both men and women will enjoy
- Keep the prizes/party favors gender neutral. Or, buy favors for both men and women.
- When the gifts are opened, place two chairs up front (one for mom and one for dad).
- Don't feel that the decorations have to be any less baby-ish than you would normally
have it. Everyone know it's a baby shower!
The decision to have a co-ed baby shower will probably be pretty quick, depending on the
father-to-be. He may want to attend the party, but he might not. If he chooses
the latter, then don't take it to heart. Baby showers are traditionally held
for the pregnant woman and her friends. He may feel that it is just not his
place to barge in and bring his buddies. But, then again, he may be flattered
and thrilled that you would want to share the party with him. He's excited
about baby's arrival too!
Co-ed baby showers are becoming popular now that husband's have become more involved with
their wives' pregnancies. It is a great way for the couples' friends and
family to show their support of the new family. If a couples shower isn't for
you, then consider having the guys take the dad-to-be out for a pre-dad night.
He might get some great advice from experienced dads!
Written by Audrey Cowan, party planner and proud mom to two children. Visit MommyParty.com,
online baby showers and resources.